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#OwnYourBodBabe on May 13

I am participating in this years #OwnYourBod on May 13th and I want you to join me. There is something that has been irking me since my birthday and today I’m going to tell you what and why?

So, on your Birthday Facebook lets your social media know it’s your big day and people comment, post pictures, videos. It’s awesome you feel celebrated and loved. Well, I try to give people the same respect as they give me and respond to each and every comment I receive. (I know crazy) Anyways, I read every comment.

Well, my last birthday there was a comment that hit me in the gut.  Now, maybe I was taking it wrong but it went a little something like this:

“Happy Birthday to someone who has worked so hard to make their body look good!”

Did you feel the blow to the throat?

The greater hurt was that I see this person every Sunday when I go to Church. Alright, now you are feeling me?

 

My Intended Message

In the last four years, it has never been my intention to promote a perfect body. I have admitted that I am vain and that my weight loss journey began because I wanted to get skinny. But, that changed during the process and it became an authentic passion to help other people honor their temple and transition into a healthy lifestyle.  

The results of moving your body and fueling it properly is that not only you look good but you feel good. That is what I have worked so hard on is showing others that a healthy lifestyle is possible and the results are that I look good.  

I also have become more confident and aware of who I am and proud of the achievement that I have made and my goal is no longer to be skinny but I really wouldn’t mind being the strongest woman in the world.

Owning my Body

So, today I chose to Own this strong body and say, “Yes, I look good and I have worked hard.” If that inspires someone to respect their body and treat it the way God intended then I’ll take that throat punch of others passive aggressive opinion.  I am on a mission to serve others by helping them find and live a healthier lifestyle. Earlier this month, a Facebook Memory popped up that I did a year ago with ReadersDigest.com. Sharing the message that EVERYbody is a bikini body.  

We really need to stop comparing ourselves to filters and being the best of who we can be.  Again, I am being bold and stepping up I am also joining an inspiring Influencer that I met last year at the life-changing Well Summit.  I have grown so much from the things I learned at the Well Summit as well as the connections that I made. Amanda from  Prim and Propah

 

#OwnYourBodBabe Vision

Amanda invited me to share this message today.  Amanda shared the vision also came from her own vain reasons:

“I started #OwnYourBodBabe because simply put, I wanted to wear a shirt that was cropped. Pretty superficial, right? But as I started coming to terms with the ingrained yuck surrounding my own self-image, I began to realize that this sh!t was going to take some work. I plan to talk about the hard work it takes to really commit to self-love/appreciation/acceptance and some days just dealing with the funk.”

“OwnYourBodBabe intent is to open up a conversation “ to encourage ourselves and others to appreciate and love our bodies, not to be dragged down by ugly societal pressures and the urge to try to be something we are not.”

Sports Bra & Capri Leggings gifted from Handful Bra

 

Share the Message

Today on Facebook, Twitter and specifically Instagram join us in by following the hashtag  #OwnYourBodBabe and be inspired and encouraged by other women to love your body. Then other people’s opinion won’t matter.  Now if you aren’t comfortable posting which is understandable there is another way that you can participate. Amanda created these questions for you to take some time today to ask yourself:

  • “Why do I give myself a hard time?”
  • “What causes me to feel self-conscious?”
  • “Why do I hate my ‘insert perceived flaw here’?”

Answering these questions can help you to start discovering and appreciating your body for how amazing it is versus your physical appearance.  That is the beginning of transformation and that is exactly what I have worked so hard for and hope I impress on others to achieve.

Conquer you #OwnYourBodBabe Monday, Beauties!

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Dry Brushing for Self-care

 

Have you noticed the new movement of Self-care?  I didn’t realize the impact of this trend until I attended a Charity Event for the What about our Daughters a few weeks ago. It was a Kid’s Konference, and it was an excellent opportunity for K-8 Children to learn about Wellness.  In one of the workshops for the older girls, they created Vision Boards and the presenter shared with the group of tween girls the importance of self-care.

At first, I thought “they’re children why do they need self-care?  But let’s face it. Children aren’t the same children that we were growing up.  They have more roles, responsibilities, the bar is much higher, and we are creating a generation of anxious children.  We had to cut back on the extracurriculars, school clubs and friend dates for my daughter. She was overscheduled, stimulated and beginning to show high anxiety.  Taking time to step back from this busy world and fill yourself is essential at any age.

What is the definition of self-care?

Self-care on Social Media from my perspective looks like bubble baths, hair trips and getting your nails done.  Some may throw in a massage (raises hands), but self-care doesn’t have to cost any money. We can rest and restore ourselves daily and take precautions and set up boundaries, so we don’t fall into anxiety.

According to the Oxford dictionary: “Self-care is The practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health. Or, The practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.”

There are some obvious ways we can care for ourselves daily.

1. Eat whole foods.

I had a guest blogger Dr. Angela Clack share the importance of food and anxiety.  What we eat has everything to do with how we feel. Making better food choices can help our physical and mental health.

2. Drink more water.

I think I can include hydration in everything that involves our well-being. Being hydrated reduces stress on our body and is a  simple way to self-care.

3. Get moving.

Exercise, of course, is another way to help improve your mood, health, and care for yourself.  It does not have to be in the gym. Do you like to dance? Do it? I always tell people to do what you loved to do when you were a kid. If you loved softball guess what there is an adult league somewhere. You like to roller skate.  Go to your local skating rink? You’d be surprised how good it feels to just kick a soccer ball around at a park as you used too even if you don’t perform as you used also.

4. Connect with God.

Self-care is biblical. There are so many ways that you can connect with God. There’s studies, devotions, and the Bible a fingertip away.  Taking 5-15 minutes out of your day to pray, devote or praise can do wonders for your Spiritual, Physical and mental endurance.

Most people are searching for peace outside of themselves at one point in time I was seeking those things too. I looked to the Universe for so many years and to find out it was God the entire time.  It wasn’t until I sought God and He met me where I was done I find the peace I was craving.

5. Disconnect.

This is probably the most valuable and free self-care tip.  Disconnect and just live life for a day. I think a lot of the outside pressure we place on ourselves is because we are constantly outsiders looking into a filtered perspective we see on Social Media. When’s the last time you spent a day offline.  Social media will continue to go on without you and sorry no one will notice that you left when you spend the day present and not wishing and hoping. It’s a great way to give your brain a break. You may even need two or a few days.

6. Take 30 minutes to “Do you!”

Don’t just get physical! Get artsy, pick up an instrument, paint, draw for me sew! The more children I had the less I did the things I used to truly enjoy. I love to sew but when my middle was too busy tearing down curtains. I had to put my sewing machine away.  It’s collected dust. Last year, I reconstructed a dress for a wedding I attended. I cannot tell you how good it felt to sew again. I also love to garden and try to do that in the Spring in summer as my thing. Nothing like pulling weeds to soothe your anxieties. Doing things that I like to do is how I like to self-care.  In our Bible and Bootcamps, “Do you!” challenge. I have watched women paint beautiful pictures, write amazing poems and express themselves creatively.  It was powerful for some to take that time for themselves.

7. Body Care.

 The best thing from my ankle injury was by incorporating regular massages in my wellness routine. I am a bi-weekly regular at Cloud 9 Wellness. I never realized how my tight muscles was affecting different aspects of my body.  Recently, I discovered dry brushing! It’s something that I now do at home on my own several times a week; even daily. I have felt and seen some amazing results.

What is dry brushing?

Dry brushing is kind of like what it sounds like, you use a firm (not hard) bristle brush and exfoliate your skim. It is suggested in a circular motion making the brush strokes towards your heart.  It is a long standing practice that has been said, to “Stimulate your circulation and promote lymphatic drainage. I looked for hours to find medical research on whether or not it eliminates body toxins but there weren’t much research studies on dry brushing.  Through personal experience. I love the way my skin feels after dry brushing, it’s tingly and definitely feels “stimulated.”  I have been doing it before showering and it feels amazing. My skin has especially on my legs have visibly improved.

Prana Brush Ionic Body Brush

I have been using the Prana-brush Ionic Body Brush which is made with extra-fine ion-charged cooper bristles.  The bristles ionic charge are to create negative ions that protect your body from free radicals. This brush has unique bristles that encourage immediate absorption of negatives ions in your skin.

 

How do you use a dry brush?

Again, you brush your skin while dry without any cleansers, soaps and oils (including essential oils).  Its recommend showering after dry brushing to get off all the exfoliated skin.  Then apply moisturizer, lotions or oils.  It’s very simple and it takes less than five minutes to dry brush your body. There have been other benefits associated with dry brushing.  It is been suggested to relieve Eczema, decrease the looks of Stretch Marks, give your body Ionic Balance, some people have felt improved digestion, and cellulite appearance.

Does it work?

In more than one way.  If you are getting it for dry winter skin, you will be surprised to see your skins texture and look change over time.  Relatively quickly. I tested one leg over the other and look at the noticeable difference. Dry brushing helps increase the blood flow in your leg but doesn’t deplete your skin of moisture.  It’s also best to follow with a shower and moisturizer.

What kind of dry brush should I use?

If you’re like me, I get overwhelmed with too many options and you can find a lot for dry brushes.  There are a few things that you want to ensure when choosing a dry brush. Make sure to use a natural stiff-bristled dry brush.  Some bristles are stiffer than others, like almost too firm. I love the Prana Brush it is so soft on your skin. It also includes extra fine soft copper bristles.  Doesn’t feel abrasive. It also is and Ionic Bristle brushes offering negative ions to help balance your body.

How do I dry brush?

It’s simple. Always brush on dry skin using a natural bristled brush. Start from the bottom and work your way up. Begin at your feet/ankles and work my way upward in long fluid strokes on limbs and circular motions on torso and back. Make sure you strokes are upwards towards your heart. Be careful on sensitive skin like your stomach, breasts and neck, (for obvious reason) you may want to put lighter pressure in these areas.  Also, use good judgment and don’t brush over broken skin; it will only irritate and not improve your skin. From my research, you can dry brush daily to several times a week. Prana Brush recommends daily before you shower as part of your routine. It should only take you 3-5 minutes to dry brush your entire body.

When should I dry brush?

The best time to dry brush is just before a shower. Then you can wash off any dead skin cells and flaky skin. Be sure to apply lotion afterward to put moisture back into your skin. Then shower and apply moisture.

Self-care is important and one of those things that you should prioritize in your life.  I want you all to experience daily amazing showers so I have I partnered with Prana Brush to review and giveaway a Prana Brush copper brush to one of my FaithFueled Life Beauties! All you have to do is complete the giveaway below! It will end March 15, 2019, at 11:50 EST so enter as many times as you like until then!

 

This post is in partnership with Prana Brush. I was given the product to review and for a giveaway but that does not affect my opinion. My Full Disclosure Policy 

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Lost in Pursuit

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Matthew 7:13 “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy[a] that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many.

Pursuing Popularity

My life has changed so much in the years that I have found Jesus.  I used to live my life as a popularity contest.  Who could I please, impress so that I could be a part of the crowd, a crowd? What could I say or do to gain their acceptance? It was how I lived my life.  Then I found Jesus and it wasn’t an immediate change it was a slow transition that picked up momentum as I grew in Christ.   Some people have the “come to Jesus moment” its and immediate change and I have witnessed it, I am just not one of those people.  The more I grew in my relationship with Jesus, the less I needed to be accepted by people and crowds.

John 15:5-8 (ESV) 5 I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in me he is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned. If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples.

Limiting myself through misconceptions

I thought being a follower of Jesus would result in restrictions and confinement to live under rules and regulations.  If only I would have done my research and realize there is freedom in Jesus.  Living in the world we are bound by rules; social, moral, ethical, political, society and governing rules. Living in Jesus we are bound by love, unconditional love.

Galatians 3:23-25 (NIV) 23 Before the coming of this faith,we were held in custody under the law, locked up until the faith that was to come would be revealed. 24 So the law was our guardian until Christ came that we might be justified by faith. 25 Now that this faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian.

Just like my quest to be popular and I wanted to do, say, and act a certain way. The same can be said for my quest for the kingdom. I still want to do, say and act a certain way but it’s not because of rules, it’s because of a change of heart.  There is a switch when you choose to follow and accept Jesus as your Savior.  I always thought people were romanticizing the idea but now that I follow, I realize its not all that I had made it up to be, it’s so much better.

Lost Among People

Unconditional Acceptance

God really does change you for the good. One of the best part is that God changes you no matter where you are, what your past was or how you got here.  He can change stubborn 80 year old man, a rebellious 19 year old young adult, or a now humbled 30 something year old women who has ran from God for years (me).  It can be like a light switch off and on or can be a gradual appreciation and acceptance.  It’s never to late and no one is excluded. Unlike people, God takes you for who you are.  Flaws welcomed; foul mouths, step on up; addicts, He has something for you too; those seeking acceptance, you have come to the right place! He loves us unconditionally, although we were made in His image there is nothing like the original, God.  The biggest fear I had about being too “religious” was guilt, judgement and condemnation of people in the Church. My concerns were misplaced and not about God but was still people pleasing and how those in the Church would accept me.  The very same people who are flawed enough to judge and condemn someone trying to enter his kingdom, even though they walked and lived in sin daily themselves was the ones I was concerned about.

Galatians 1:10 (ESV) For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

Pursue God

Don’t let people ruin it for God

I feel like people sometimes ruin it for God. They make it harder for those who are new to get to Him. I think that is why televangelist are so popular and accepted. You don’t have to go through the trials of the people of the world to receive a message. You can turn on your television, podcast and over streams of media and received the message directly. If you are new to Christ and you are struggling sometime people of the Church can make it intimidating by being judgmental or unwelcoming.We have to overcome this and just go to the source, God, that’s where you will find the unconditional love and total fulfillment. You will never be fulfilled by people they will always let you down. I still pursue acceptance and still want to join the crowd but it’s a different crowd that is made up of only three.  I am living and pursuing the acceptance on the Son, Father and Holy Spirit and in return it is make me whole, builds me up and completely satisfies all my needs. Have you ever sought popularity? How is God helping you overcome your pursuits of the wrong things?